The more I read and write about bullying these days, the more I find that the word “bully” doesn’t even come close to the absolute hell that too many people face at the hands of others.
Cassidy Trevan was one of those people.
She was constantly bullied by classmates, and at 13, she was gang raped by several of them.
Two girls invited her to go to a festival with them and instead took her to a nearby house. That’s when Cassidy learned that their invitation was nothing but a malicious set-up. Two boys were waiting at the house
Cassidy’s mother, Linda, described what happened to her daughter at the home:
“They were older boys that Cass didn’t know. Two girls who sat and waited. Two boys who shared her and timed each other. One boy stood guarding the front door.”
The young teen did report the rape to police, but never made a formal statement. She continued to live in constant fear as the group went on to relentlessly terrorize her.
Linda eventually moved them from their home and transferred her daughter to a different school. But the fear never left Cassidy.
“She was worried the main bully girl would find us where we had moved to, or send other boys to get her again. One time the power went out and she had a panic attack thinking they were coming to get her.”
Two years after being raped, and facing non-stop harassment, Cassidy tragically took her own life.
Before doing so though, she wrote a brutally honest letter that she hoped would save other students at her school from facing the same trauma.
The 15-year-old wrote the letter with her boyfriend, Luke, and it was found on her laptop after her death.
After introducing herself as a former student who was raped by other students at the school, Cassidy explained that she was not writing the letter to get attention, but merely to serve as a warning.
“My aim is to warn other people (students mostly but also parents) about what happened because I’m worried if they could do it to me they could do it to other kids like me, or at least try to. You actually have the power to stop this from happening. Remember the people who did this to me were school students at (omitted), it’s hard to believe, I know. But it’s true.”
She explained that her purpose in sharing what happened to her was not to get revenge on anyone who had hurt her, but to inform and protect others.
“I’m doing this because over 1500 students years 7-12 are currently enrolled at the school and they need to be warned. I feel because of what happened to me, and because the staff at the school did nothing to help me (which I’ll talk a bit more about later), it’s now my duty to warn you all and to make you aware of what happened. (Not just what you may have heard around school but what actually happened.)”
Cassidy writes that her motives are not solely for other people though. She simply wrote the letter hoping that she might find freedom from the trauma that had chased her around for far too long.
“I want to finally after 1 and ½ years be left alone. It’s surprising just how many students at (omitted) have heard stories of me and weirdly enough still get told stories of me to this day. I still continue to get students I’ve never met contacting me on Facebook calling me a slut. I’ve moved schools, I’ve moved houses and still I’m being contacted and bullied. I can’t stop people from spreading rumors, but at least I could try and spread what really happened seeing as it’s still being talked about anyway. But as I said this honestly is more so for students who are unaware of this and are in danger of those students.
My name is Cassidy Trevan, and I was raped.”
She finished her letter by encouraging others who find themselves trapped in similar situations to fight.
“If anyone ever tries this on you trust me it’s worth fighting! Fight! If you don’t you’ll regret it for the rest of your life like I do. You can do it.”
Linda shared her daughter’s letter because she saw first-hand the terror that cost Cassidy her life. She wrote directly to the bullies on Facebook:
“I had to watch my baby suffer for the next 22 months from these demons…she worried you would find her and get her again, she went through continued bullying from some of you who managed to get to her by phone or social media, via others, even after what you’d done to her. She suffered flash backs of the crime, nightmares, insomnia, separation anxiety, panic attacks, PTSD and subsequent worsening mental illness.”
Linda hopes that Cassidy’s letter might save others from enduring such tragedy.