What do you do when you feel SO ugly?

We really need to put aside the “feelings” we have about ourselves and instead replace those ugly thoughts with the truth of who we are, we are beloved and beautiful.

I know we may not feel beautiful often but what I need you to understand is that we are hardest on ourselves and we really need to stop looking in the mirror and being so mean to ourselves.

About 9 months ago, I left Atlanta, GA to move across the country to Los Angeles, CA and weeks before I left, I had this MAJOR self-image crisis. I have never really liked the way I looked or thought of myself as pretty, but this was different, this was extreme. I found myself scrambling for new make-up, a new hairdo, a new face care regimen, new anything to make myself look different. I hated the way I looked, and the “feeling” came on kind of out of nowhere.

I honestly thought I had gotten over this a few years ago:

-This self-hatred thing
-This looking at myself in the mirror with utter disgust thing
-This seeing a picture of myself and thinking, “is that me, is that what I look like, what’s wrong with me?” thing.

But, it popped up again without me noticing, and I couldn’t stand the sight of myself.

The Bible, (which I know your mom and dad or your youth pastor will tell you to read and some of you roll your eyes thinking, how could this book help me with my problems) is THE CREATOR of the universe’s words to the HUMAN RACE. It’s a big deal. And it speaks SO clearly about the enemy who comes to steal, kill and destroy your peace, your joy, your thankfulness, your everything (John 10:10).

I am much older than you and the enemy stole a lot of my youth, because I believed his lies about me, I hated myself, thought I was ugly and that no one would ever want me or love me.

But after meeting Jesus at 31 years old, I learned how the truth of who we are is not a feeling, it is a fact and it is found in that Bible that your parents or your youth pastor harp on you to read.

These people are not annoying, they just know the power that the + plus the help of the Holy Spirit (I always pray that the Holy Spirit will help me understand the Bible before I read it)  says, “be sober of mind for the devil is like a roaring lion seeking for who he can devour (1 Peter 5:8-9). The word devour is kind of a serious word.

The Good News: the Bible also says, He who is in me (and YOU as a believer of Jesus), is stronger than he who is in the world (the devil) (1 John 4:4). So let’s thank the living Jesus for that truth. But know that I do understand this self-hatred thing feels really real and it often feels, like it isn’t going to go away. But see that is the lie.

You won’t know the lie if you don’t know the Truth.

When I was 25 I thought I was so ugly, but 12 years later after seeing a picture of my 25 year old self, my 37 year old self thought, “Gosh, I was kind of pretty, why did I think I was so ugly?” Because the enemy can distort your thoughts about yourself, if you let him.

I suddenly realized, Lindsay when you are 50 you are going to think your 37 year old self was pretty. SO STOP BEING MEAN TO YOURSELF…..

Sometimes we help the devil by not only listening to him but by agreeing with him.

Sometimes (and what I mean by sometimes is OFTEN) we just have to ask our sweet Father in Heaven to help us feel pretty.

At one point, I was over hating the mirror so I took some old lip stick and wrote, How Lovely is Your Dwelling Place OH LORD Almighty, Psalm 84:1, really big on my mirror. That way every time I wanted to agree with the enemy about how ugly I was, the lip stick scripture would smack me in the face. I would then suddenly realize that I was hating the very dwelling place of the Holy, Living God of the Universe.

Recently I found this little ‘nugget of love’ in Song of Solomon:

“Behold, you are beautiful, my love, behold you are BEAUTIFUL.”  Song of Solomon 4:1 says GOD (the One who created the UNIVERSE)

Girls, I know we all want “that” boy to think we are cute, trust me I am a lot older than you, but I am still a girl who desires a guy to think and tell me that I am beautiful, but what we have to remind ourselves daily is that the One who Created us and the entire Universe IS saying WE ARE BEAUTIFUL.

My prayer is that you let Him, that you listen to Him, so that when that boy does come along, you already know you are beautiful, because your Daddy in Heaven told you and continues to remind you! It is right there in His word darlings. No one can tell us it’s not true.

The One who created the universe says WE are beautiful.

We really need to put aside the “feelings” we have about ourselves and instead replace those ugly thoughts with the truth of who we are, we are beloved and beautiful.

You are beloved and BEAUTIFUL

Lindsay the random blogger girl is not saying this about you, it’s God!

You are the Apple of His eye! (Zechariah 2:8)

The Word of God says so…..

So, let’s respond to the enemy like Jesus did, reminding the devil of what GOD says:

“It is written, I am the dwelling place of the Lord of Lords and King of Kings, the God MOST High and He calls me lovely, He calls me beautiful”

Every word of God is flawless. (Proverbs 30:5) and Truth is Truth!

Now get out your bright red lipstick and write these truths on your mirror

Oh and take a picture of yourself in your mirror with your favorite scripture saying how beautiful you are and post it and tag me at (@PuttingthePencilDown).

Let’s do THIS…

Love you Always,

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Lindsay Morgan Snyder
Lindsay Morgan Snyder​ is an author, business owner, ministry student, novice fashion designer and avid entrepreneur. Snyder has worked with top leaders in the leadership space and written for everybody from Hollywood to Homeless shelters. Her love for adventure and random risk has led her to appear on Good Morning America and The Dr. Phil Show. She lives in Los Angeles CA. You can connect with Lindsay at LettingLoveInBook.com.

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