Are you a boy?
Not sorry that you’re a boy… That’s awesome.
I’m sorry that you see hundreds of advertisements every week showing half-dressed women.
I’m sorry every time you go to the beach or your neighborhood pool you can’t look in any direction without seeing a girl basically in her underwear.
Or that you can’t scroll through Instagram on “women crush Wednesdays” or any day for that matter without an airbrushed girl in a thong staring you down.
Or that your buddy showed you that one magazine when you were 9 and you’ve never forgotten that moment because that was the first time you first saw a completely naked woman.
When I think about the guys in my life who are striving to live with a pure and godly mindset, it honestly breaks my heart that they’re surrounded with so much temptation.
I think about my 22-year-old brother, David, and the fight he is fighting every day for his future wife.
I think about the middle school boys in my youth group who don’t seem to have a clue how destructive this lustful lifestyle they are checking out is.
But most of all, I think about the man I’m going to marry.
Not only are you surrounded with a world that’s obsessed with worthless, cheap sex and relationships that mean nothing outside of sexual appeal, you’re encouraged to take part in seeing women as only objects of sex and instant pleasure. All the sports reporters are drop dead gorgeous. All the news anchors. Any girl that’s used for any kind of advertising. I wouldn’t be surprised if it’s all you can think about.
Its like every guy judges you based off of how hot your girlfriend is.
And maybe you’re so consumed with trying to be a “man” that you’d put up with the most annoying, possessive, selfish girl if she was really hot. Because that’s all that really matters, right?
Or maybe you’re not putting up with a girl right now who really isn’t annoying, possessive and selfish. Maybe you’re with a really sweet and pretty girl, but you know deep down inside, if you’re honest, she’s not striving after God nearly the way she’s striving after you. You can’t fulfill the role of God for her. That’s just not fair for you and definitely not healthy for her.
And I haven’t even tapped into pornography.
Porn. The fantasy world where men’s desires are cast as first and foremost the most important thing in the whole world. And where women are cast as objects of sex and instant pleasure in order to fulfill that need at anytime, in any way, with any women you could dream of. An industry where both women and men are lied to about their health safety, and usually take drugs to suppress the emotional trauma that happens on set. Where over 121 porn stars have died from aids, suicide, homicide, drugs and premature death since 2007.
Porn. What 50 percent of men and 20 percent of women IN THE CHURCH look at regularly.
Where according to the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, 58 percent of divorces were a result of a spouse looking at excessive amounts of pornography online in 2003.
Porn. The industry that makes over $97 billion revenue worldwide, $13 billion in the U.S. alone.
…which is more than the revenues of the top technology companies combined: Microsoft, Google, Amazon, eBay, Yahoo!, Apple, Netflix and Earthlink.
…which is more than NFL, NBA and MLB’s revenues in 2012 combined.
Pornography destroys. It becomes an addiction and distorts the way you see your sisters in Christ, and eventually your wife.
But enough with the pity party I’ve managed to throw for you.
ENOUGH to all the lies thrown your way about how you CAN’T be good enough for a godly girl or more importantly, God’s grace.
ENOUGH to allowing the pornography industries to treat your temptations and natural desires as a way to lavish themselves in money.
ENOUGH to the petty girl who you have been beating yourself up for.
Don’t you think you’d want to wait for a girl who will encourage you on your walk with God? Who will work in protecting your purity? Who will Respect you and encourage you to follow your dreams? Who will see you as redeemed? Who will be by your side during the good AND bad?
Too often, it is girls who are told not to settle for a guy. But guys, the same thing goes for you. Don’t waste your time and emotions on a girl who really could care less about you and just wants you for what you will do for her. You, too, deserve someone who will see you as amazing and treat you accordingly.
1. Do not conform. God’s will is good and acceptable and perfect.
Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect. Romans 12:2
2. Keep God’s words and treasure his commandments to withstand her temptation.
My son, keep my words and treasure up my commandments with you; keep my commandments and live; keep my teaching as the apple of your eye; bind them on your fingers; write them on the tablet of your heart. Say to wisdom, “You are my sister,” and call insight your intimate friend, to keep you from the forbidden woman, from the adulteress with her smooth words. Proverbs 7:1-27
3. God will provide a way to escape.
No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation, he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it. 1 Corinthians 10:13
4. Sin will have no dominion over you.
So you also must consider yourselves dead to sin and alive to God in Christ Jesus. Let not sin therefore reign in your mortal body, to make you obey its passions. Do not present your members to sin as instruments for unrighteousness, but present yourselves to God as those who have been brought from death to life, and your members to God as instruments for righteousness. For sin will have no dominion over you, since you are not under law but under grace. Romans 6:11-14
Don’t let any mistakes in your past discourage you from believing you can start clean. Choose to leave a life of lust behind and start today if you haven’t. You are going to be blessed beyond words and avoid so much heartbreak.
5. All things WILL work together for your good
And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose. Romans 8:28
6. He will give you the desires of your heart
Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Psalm 37:4
7. You’ll be Blessed.
And all these blessings shall come upon you and overtake you, if you obey the voice of the Lord your God. Blessed shall you be in the city, and blessed shall you be in the field. Blessed shall be the fruit of your womb and the fruit of your ground and the fruit of your cattle, the increase of your herds and the young of your flock. Blessed shall be your basket and your kneading bowl. Deuteronomy 28:1-68
MEN STRIVING FOR PURITY:
May I just say how proud I, and so many other girls, are of you?
Thank you. You are truly a light in this dark world. A protector of women, and a buckler for your future family. Thank you for loving your sisters in Christ the way the Jesus would. And for treating us with respect. It is men like you who make us want to be better women in God. It is so easy to settle for someone who is not a strong Christian because we forget that there are guys like you who truly see us as precious and worthy of your respect. Please be encouraged. Keep fighting. We need you.
Sincerely, one of many girls who really do care.