For years of middle school, high school, and even college, I struggled with a low self-esteem. I constantly felt self-conscious and like people were judging me. As I got older, I realized that the only one really judging me was me. I let my low self-esteem hold me back from trying new things, making new friends, and truly expressing myself. Do I still get self-conscious sometimes and feel my self-esteem slipping? Absolutely! But now I know I can beat those fears, and that they’re just a temporary road block.
I know I’m not alone. I know every struggles with their self-esteem at some point, and some people struggle with it a lot. But when you’re in the thick of it, it definitely feels like you’re alone. And this is something we have to get away from! Not only does a low self-esteem harm us mentally, it also holds us back from life experiences. By boosting our self-esteem, we can become happier, more stable individuals. So today, I’m sharing with you 12 habits to boost your self-esteem and feel better about yourself!
Find something you’re passionate about. I can’t even truly express to you how much blogging has boosted my self-esteem. I’ve always loved to write, and I wanted an outlet to do that. But I had no idea how beneficial blogging would actually be mentally and emotionally. It truly has turned me into a happier, more confident person.
Make goals for yourself. I regularly write out goals for myself, which you might have seen in my monthly goals post. It’s a major self-esteem booster when I cross things off that list. But it also gives me a sense of purpose to have something to strive for.
Create your own definition of success. If you spend your life trying to reach the definition of success that someone else sets for you, you’re never going to feel fulfilled by it. Instead, set your own definition. It gives you something to strive for and it feels awesome to do something that makes you feel successful.[video-ad]
Review your accomplishments. We’ve all accomplished something, but we also seem to forget in the moments when we most need a pick-me-up. If you’re feeling down on yourself, run through a mental list of all the awesome things you’ve done. Even better, write them down!
Don’t criticize yourself. If we want to feel better about ourselves, we need to start with treating ourselves better. We wouldn’t walk up to another person and insult their appearance, so why do we do it to ourselves?? Stop looking in the mirror and picking out all the things you dislike about yourself. Instead look in the mirror and pick out what you love about yourself!
Take care of yourself. I know that I always feel better about myself on days that I’ve put effort into my appearance. I’m not one to spend a ton of time doing my hair and makeup, but just generally looking presentable definitely boosts my self-confidence.
Exercise. I may not see the outward benefits of a workout right away, but I definitely feel great about myself afterward anyways! At the very least, you’ll know you accomplished something and made yourself a little healthier.
Don’t dismiss compliments. When someone tells you that you did an awesome job on a project at work or that you look great, believe them! I don’t know why we are so quick to dismiss compliments others pay us, but it’s a habit we all need to break!
Don’t fall into the comparison trap. I fall into this trap a lot. These days, it’s probably hinder to my self-esteem. It’s so hard to look at someone else’s blog who has more page views, or makes more money, or is a better designer, etc., and wonder why I’m not where they are. We all have to stop doing that. Stop thinking about where everyone else is and think about where you are!
Don’t strive for perfectionism. If you strive to be perfect, you’re going to fail. There’s just no way around it. But what you can do is strive to do your best and be the absolute best version of yourself.
Be kind to others. There are few better feelings in life than doing something awesome for someone else. You know how, once you become an adult, it’s so much more fun to give gifts than it is to receive them? This is why! The feeling that you’ve made someone else’s day or made their life better is one that can’t be beat.
Don’t dwell on the past. We all have things in our past that made us feel self-conscious. We have things that we regret or are embarrassed by. But it’s so, so important to let those go. They happened, and there’s nothing we can do about them now. But we can move on from the past and not let it affect our happiness in the future.